International Pronouns Day is the third Wednesday of October, which was October 16th this year. My pronouns are they/them. But more on that later. ◊♦◊ I’ve been thinking a lot lately about why, of all the LGBTQ+ issues, the matter of using declared pronouns seems to upset so many people. As I wrote recently, I…
Month: October 2019
Why Ellen Is Wrong
Last week, the LGBTQ+ community had three significant stories. ◊♦◊ One was Friday being National Coming Out Day, a day for LGBTQ+ persons to tell whomever they please about their sexual orientation and gender identities. A lot has happened since the first NCOD in 1988. The Supreme Court has ruled that both same-sex marriage (Obergefell…
“Joker”: A(nother) Violent White Male Narrative
Full disclosure: I have not seen “Joker.” I have no immediate plans to. As Grandpa says in “The Lost Boys,” “Read the TV Guide, you don’t need a TV.” Honestly, part of me doesn’t even want to write this, because it will give the movie more attention. But ultimately, this movie itself doesn’t really matter….
The Bargain
This has always been the deal. What I get: All the benefits and privileges that come with looking like a heterosexual, cisgender man. What I give up: The right to fully be myself. This has always been the deal. What I get: The right to fully be myself. What I give up: The Devil drives…
It’s Not Just a Pronoun
A few weeks ago, the lexicographers at Merriam-Webster continued doing their job by adding a non-binary meaning to “they”: “4. used to refer to a single person whose gender identity is nonbinary.” Because this was a controversial act, a blogger at the site explained the decision: “All new words and meanings that we enter in…