This Is Only Tempora
In a public restroom today, I saw a sticker that said, “this is only tempora”. It was missing two letters because someone had attempted to pull it off, succeedi...
Month: August 2019
How To Be an Antiracist (Book Review)
A decade ago, Jay Smooth released a video entitled, “How To Tell Someone They Sound Racist.” The message was straightforward: Focus on the deed, not the person....
Invisibility
One of the characteristics of the Avoidant is a pervasive feeling of invisibility. This is related to low self-esteem and feelings of insignificance. One of my ...
Hills and Bridges
I was taking an online mental health quiz and I got to this question: “Do you often see potential for danger in situations that others in your life take p...
The Box Inside the Box
The thing these days is to speak of “the man box” and “toxic masculinity” in one breath, as if the two are the same thing and if we only...
Weaponizing “Bullying”
I’m a member of a teacher group that loves weaponizing the word “bullying.” It got so bad that I left it for a few weeks to get my focus back....
Treat Mass Shootings as a Manhood Issue
In the 2005 movie “Syriana,” a Pakistani migrant worker named Wasim is on the verge of getting deported when he loses his job at an oil refinery. As his story u...
A Time to Keep Silent
The stereotypical mother says, “If you can’t say something nice….” That exhortation is meant to remind us that we shouldn’t say me...
… hitting the reset button.
I started this decade unemployed, adrift, and with a commitment to become a blogger. I started several blogs and posted a bunch of stuff. The next year, I went ...
Dream: The other half of the house
Here is a dream. I had noticed that we were missing one of the steps going to the basement, but we’d learned to just hop over the gap. I finally decided t...